Hi Mickey, your wife here. I really appreciate this aspect of your substack as it truly represents who you are at your core. You’re someone who is internally strong enough to admit your own mistakes and apologize for them. It deepens your relationships and models for others that it’s ok to do the same. And it makes you very lovable. I’m very proud of you.
I think this is a good idea. It’s easy to get audience capture (the real erogenous zone) from ranting, but probably not as likely from confessing, indeed, far from it!
That said, I think both aspects are healthy together. There’s a great line in P&P: “What are we here for, but to laugh at our neighbours, and make sport for them in turn”. I think it is fair to be annoyed, it’s what we do after that counts.
I have felt a similar experience back when I was in university about a DEI like recommendation to avoid campus pubs as for discussion group meetings. At the time I was chapped, because i thought that the less formal atmosphere can stimulate creativity and indeed even be helpful for some persons who may otherwise be shy (myself). Since, I’ve been a bit convinced of the positives to nuance in discussions about alcohol by Ted Slingerland. I think it is some kind of eastern thing. My support has increased in time for a few reasons, the more because of having gone through so many changes to that relationship throughout career: workshops and conferences during grad school, working under during covid (when it was frowned upon), working with First Nation (where it was understandably taboo). But recently, I’ve joined a new department and once a month we leave an hour early mid week to discuss a selected research paper and it’s great.
I think it’s fair to rant, that said, if it’s about your own department it is probably best to rant about your dirty laundry in a tone that’s less aggravating than get of my lawn of yard signs. It’s tricky, but I think it’s important that we speak up and occasionally make mistakes (and own them) than to not risk making the mistakes. Life is strikes and gutter, ups and downs.
Anyways, thanks. And don’t mind the longer post. Not everyone is into the whole brevity thing.
Hi Mickey, your wife here. I really appreciate this aspect of your substack as it truly represents who you are at your core. You’re someone who is internally strong enough to admit your own mistakes and apologize for them. It deepens your relationships and models for others that it’s ok to do the same. And it makes you very lovable. I’m very proud of you.
Hey Mickey,
I think this is a good idea. It’s easy to get audience capture (the real erogenous zone) from ranting, but probably not as likely from confessing, indeed, far from it!
That said, I think both aspects are healthy together. There’s a great line in P&P: “What are we here for, but to laugh at our neighbours, and make sport for them in turn”. I think it is fair to be annoyed, it’s what we do after that counts.
I have felt a similar experience back when I was in university about a DEI like recommendation to avoid campus pubs as for discussion group meetings. At the time I was chapped, because i thought that the less formal atmosphere can stimulate creativity and indeed even be helpful for some persons who may otherwise be shy (myself). Since, I’ve been a bit convinced of the positives to nuance in discussions about alcohol by Ted Slingerland. I think it is some kind of eastern thing. My support has increased in time for a few reasons, the more because of having gone through so many changes to that relationship throughout career: workshops and conferences during grad school, working under during covid (when it was frowned upon), working with First Nation (where it was understandably taboo). But recently, I’ve joined a new department and once a month we leave an hour early mid week to discuss a selected research paper and it’s great.
I think it’s fair to rant, that said, if it’s about your own department it is probably best to rant about your dirty laundry in a tone that’s less aggravating than get of my lawn of yard signs. It’s tricky, but I think it’s important that we speak up and occasionally make mistakes (and own them) than to not risk making the mistakes. Life is strikes and gutter, ups and downs.
Anyways, thanks. And don’t mind the longer post. Not everyone is into the whole brevity thing.
The dude abides.
Cheers,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Ryan. And if you're not into the whole brevity thing, some longer posts are coming up!