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Brent's avatar

You lost me at Roberts being brilliant.

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Jim coan's avatar

This is such an honest and generous piece, Micky. I’ve been circling a similar conclusion for years, from a different angle, namely that what we call “self-control” (or even “emotion regulation”) may really be a measure of access: to stable relationships, to reliable co-regulators, to predictable environments, to organizational scaffolding. From where I sit, the most “self-controlled” people are those who’ve constructed environments—especially social ones—that require less self-control. Bravo on this.

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